Husband and Kids

Well, it’s another day since we all learned of the great Michael Jackson passing away. I still can’t believe he’s gone - he will be surely be missed! I feel as if it was someone of my very own I lost. Yes, I didn’t know him personally but I grew up listening to his music and learning those dance moves of his.  I know his music, and I knew his style. There were so many times we all invited Michael into our homes, into our cars and into our hearts with his music.  Michael Jackson- The King of Pop was a genius when it came to music.  MJ was untouchable and no one could touch him not even Elvis could touch him.

So what really took Michael out? We all know foul play is not a factor in the reason he had an heart attack.  The toxicology report want be available until another 6-8 weeks from now. There is more to his death, I believe. I know for months even the national enquirer wrote Michael Jackson only has six months to live. But who really pay attention to that stuff they publish? Just six months of the article being printed; Michael Jackson is found not breathing. I’ve read that Michael insistent that the promoter hire the cardiologist that was there in the house. So, why would Michael insistent on hiring a full time cardiologist; why would he need one to be with him at all times? So did Michael has any heart issues that has been speculated for years? But listening to the details it’s more likely he was already dead when he was discovered. There had been reports that the cardiologist has been performing cpr on Michael sometime before the ambulance arrived. The question is: how long had he been there before he was discovered not breathing?  Is there more that’s not being reported as the reason he went into cardiac arrest and what were the reasons? I know just by watching clips of Michael over the last several years; he didn’t look well at all. Even during his trial he showed up to court in pjs and could barely walk on his own. Was he really sick as the tabloids were reporting?

I miss you Mike, we all miss you. I hope now you can get the respect you deserve! I’m wondering how his little sister Janet is doing. I know they were very close. Once again, my thoughts and prayers are with his children and family.

Today is probably one of the saddest days that I know of. What I’m feeling about the news relating to the death of Michael Jackson is disbelief and over filled with so much sadness.  My emotions are just over pouring with sadness.  Sadness that is so unfamiliar to me. I feel as if it was one of my very own close relatives.

I grew up listening to Michael every since I could remember.  I remember popping in several of his cassette tapes every night before going to bed. Michael Jackson was and will always be one of the greatest entertainers, ever! I believe there will never be anyone to take his place! Ever…. Today has definitely been one of the saddest days of my life! Michael I will truly miss you. I am honored to say I was able to attend the bad concert that came to Atlanta in 98.

Despite of alleged allegations that shadowed his career over the course of the 12+ years. Michael Jackson will be truly missed! My condolences goes out to the Jackson family along with lots love and prayers. My kids are huge music fans it saddens me that my kids will never experience what I experienced growing up listening to “real” music.

Michael Jackson

1958-2009

What’s even sadder I feel as if Michael spent the last couple of years in misery.  It was understood Michael was preparing for a come book, hoping to revive his career. He was schedule to begin tour in UK.  It’s unfortunate he never got the chance. As I sit here and write these words I still can’t believe I’m saying Michael Jackson has died.

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The percentages of failed marriages in the United States is staggering. Chances are you know someone that is separated or divorced. If you don’t know someone personally you probably know someone that knows someone that is divorced. Why is this so? There are several reasons as to why most marriages fail. This article discusses the top four reasons why most marriages fail.

1. Communication - proper communication is the crux of any good relationship. Only through good communication can we know how and what our partner is feeling. Without open communication between two people we can’t possibly know what and to what extent something may be bothering someone. If we can’t adequately communicate then the smallest of issues can develop into major events in a relationship leading us down a troubled path. Proper communication is the start of resolving our problems.

2. Financial concerns and difficulties - most couples will experience some degree of financial difficulties. This could range from frivolous spending, accruing debt to not saving any money. Unless you are wealthy expect that you will have financial difficulties at some point in your marriage. It’s when these finanical burdens begin to overtake part of the relationship that the real trouble begins. If a couple cannot come to an agreement as to how to handle their finances then tension is likely to develop. The problems worsen as one tries to solve the crisis while the other only contributes to it. This places a great deal of strain on the marriage.

3. Marriage not based on love - many couples today get married for reasons other than love. Some get married because they feel they have to due to pressure from family or friends. Or they see all of there friends getting married so they feel they should too. So they rush into a marriage prematurely. Others get married because of premarital pregnancy. Couples that are too young and inexperienced who think they are in love will often get married. They may soon realize that they don’t truly love this person or they are not mature enough to handle the more difficult relationship problems that may arise in a marriage.

4. Society - The value that society places on marriage is fading. You can rush off to Las Vegas and get married on the spot regardless of your background. You can live with someone and have children without ever getting married. These options really devalue marriage.

There are many reasons why most marriages fail. Societies values don’t place as much emphasis on marriage so couples may no longer consider it a viable option. If they do get married and troubles arise they are quicker to disregard the marriage without trying to make it work. In this respect many marriages are doomed before they start.

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Every family crisis starts with small things, whether it be a falling out or cheating. A cheating husband in particular should be caught early on so that the situation can be diffused and dealt with as soon as possible. Here are some warning signs that your husband could be cheating on you :

1. Boredom with the Family

If your husband exhibits boredom with things pertaining to your family, it could be a sign that he could be seeing someone else or is in a greater risk of doing so.

2. Decreased Intimacy

If in the past you used to share everything with your husband and then suddenly he seems distanced and clams up when you try to discuss intimate things, it could mean that he has already distanced himself emotionally and mentally from you. Ask whether this is the case and dig for the cause of this estrangement.

Some husbands suddenly lose interest in doing anything with their wives – another testament to an increased estrangement.

3. He Gets Testy at the Mention of Infidelity

Men easily lose their tops whenever they are frustrated about something they seriously want – or want hidden. If you suddenly hint about infidelity, and he is trying his darndest to keep you off the know, then he is sure to blow his top at the mere mention of cheating.

This is one sign that he may be actually hiding something from you – or is trying really hard not to cheat. You will have to look hard into this.

4. He Stays Later At Work

Yes, overtime is a workplace reality. However, if he is spending more time than usual at work and sometimes beyond the usual overtime period, you may have sufficient cause for alarm.

This is doubly true if his credit statement suddenly has entries that are hard to explain or are plain dubious. You should look into these if you feel that there is something he should explain.

Conclusion

When you find these signs strung together, then you might have a husband that is cheating on you. If so, do not jump up and barge in to him with an accusation, seek advice on the proper means to resolving this issue.

Is your partner is in affair with some one else after marriage? There is nothing quite as heartbreaking in a marriage as finding out that your partner has betrayed you in the ultimate way. Most people go through many different feelings and emotions. However, it is entirely possible to save your marriage after an affair.you have to do hard work and dedication to save your marriage.Here are some great tips on how to save your marriage after an affair.

Apologize : IF you have cheated your partner with getting an affair with some one else,it is important that you apologize.it is better to start while you are on the to save your marriage.If you apologize, your partner think your are genuinely,truly sorry.They also have to know that you are 100% certain you will never do it again.

Accept : If Your partner has cheated on you, but the two of you have decided to move on and save your marriage, you have to believe your partner. When you agree to save the marriage with partner, you agree to forgive and accept apology.So, accept and work together to a great and beautiful marriage.

Love And Empathy : It is very important that when you’re trying to save your marriage, you have no end to the love and empathy that you show your partner. Even if your spouse doesn’t reciprocate right away, continue to give these things.Compare it to watering a seed. There isn’t a sprout as soon as you water it, or even after a few days of timely watering. However, if you continue to water your seed, you will have a sprout very soon. Even the smallest of sprouts can grow into a mighty tree. So, show love, understanding, and empathy to your spouse and continue to water the seed of your love.

The husband and I have been together 12 years. We have 5 beautiful children ages ranges from 11 years old to 8 months old.  I can’t remember when the last time  we got dressed up, went out, and really enjoyed ourselves without the kids.  I believe that has never happened just a fragment of my imagination.  Although, I would love to have a date night out with him!

Today and everyday he’s busy working 12-15 hours a day. I’m often left alone tending to all five of the kids with everything else to do around here. Did I include trying to keep them all quiet while he’s on the phone talking to clients! Did I mention to you there are five kids here?! Three running around clueless while the 2 year old is torturing everyone in sight and the 8 month old is still trying to figure out if the feet she discovered 3 months ago are removable. Which leaves us absolutely no time for each other.

The biggest challenge is getting someone who’s willing to keep all five kids. His parents are great about keeping the older three. They are not willing to keep the two smaller ones, yet.  So understandable!  I don’t expect anyone to do that. Hell, five children is enough for me and they all belong to me.  I wouldn’t want anyone to do that especially if they didn’t belong to me.  So when you have more than two children what do you do? Especially when you have as many as we do? Unless splitting them up and finding a reliable source who will keep the younger two.

There’s one thing I’m not comfortable with in the bed room and that’s oral sex. From time to time I may enjoy it which isn’t often enough…
Hubby would make you think I never gave him head before. It seems to be the
most frequent discussed topic between us; getting his dick sucked. There have
been a few times when I’ve initiated the act just to please him. Although, it’s not
my cup of tea, I could careless. Unfortunately, it’s becoming more of a
discussion between us, daily.

On a serious note: I’m not wanting to give him a free pass to go out and get what I’m not willing to do. Sad but true this often happens in relationships between couples. When one is not willing to do; another one is. This often becomes the excuse for any person to cheat male or female. Does it make it right, NO and it’s certainly not acceptable.

Given my situation, I feel I have to bite the bullet and march to his beat of the drums. I don’t believe no one should be put in that situation basically being forced to do something they don’t want to do. As crazy as it sounds, by not doing it can cause more issues in the marriage forcing him to look some place else. Perhaps that’s why men cheat; they often go to the other woman simply because the wife isn’t putting out.   Marriage sucks!

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The kids received their results…they passed. Yay kids! It was such a concerned if they would pass or not. Since moving to NC and moving back to GA to make sure they pass. They did and we’re all so relieved. Friday, is their last day of school. I’m sort of looking forward to them being out and there’s a part of me that is Oh NO! This means keeping them busy with plenty of things to do. It’s important that kids enjoy their summer break from school.

This is what’s up.. I recorded a message on my phone.  Did I say my phone?! Basically,  making the caller think I’ve answered the phone but it’s really a recording and eventually prompting the caller to leave a message.  It was definitely different for me.

The reason I did it was to remind myself that life isn’t always meant to be so serious, life is too short. I believe, I was being too serious forgetting the very thing that keeps us in our right mind, laughing.  As we get older we often forget how to laugh. Over a period of time we laugh less and less until we eventually stop laughing. I wanted to remind myself; I’m still youthful and I still have a sense of humor. Even sometimes… it’s o.k to let our guard down.  It’s o.k to just free ourselves or not focus on what everyone believes how you should feel (within reason- as long it’s not too over the top, of course.)

Getting to the point, my husband’s dad made a comment about the recording. ” You’ll expect that from a high school or college student.”  To include an alcoholic, bitch ass, moron, backstabbing, punk mother-fucker cousin of his who likes beating up on women pregnant or not and screwing his Uncle’s wife.  Whoa.. You know, I could give a fuck what he or what anyone else thinks.  In fact, the phone isn’t meant for them or anyone else to be calling.  I got the phone so I’ll have with me if anything happened and to make occasional phone calls from. No one at least professional calls that phone and  I’m certainly not using the phone to conduct business with.  If it were…then of course that would be another story.  Last time I checked the phone was in my name and I pay the bills on that damn phone! So, please… All of you can go unloosen the screws from your asses and leave me the hell alone about a phone that belongs to me.  Got it?! Good.

Since, the screws are not as tight in your asses anymore. You can now remove your thumbs from your asses and breathe!

What a wonderful day! It was really nice…The husband and kids surprised me with a nice bouquet of flowers. We had plans to go out to dinner. But since my brothers and sister wanted to do something for my mom. I decided to be counted in. Since it was the first mother’s day my mom would have without her mother. I thought it would mean a lot if all her children were there.  Although, I was torn apart over what to do spending time with my husband and kids or my mom.  Things worked out. Cartess, decided to take his mother out.  She later called him back that evening telling him thank you. It was the best mother’s day ever. So it all worked out and every one won!

Happy Mother’s Day to all!